The hard truth is that it is difficult to love someone with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder fully. It’s hard always to be hesitant of what to say and often feeling like you’re walking on bombs that might explode anytime. You walk on tiptoes, not knowing what step or words will set off the bomb of emotion. This is something that you want to avoid.
If someone in your family is diagnosed with ADHD, you know by now that they suffer every day. Life for them is tougher than the rest of the members who don’t have it. Everything is extreme and overblown. Their intelligent brains are always actively formulating, wondering, building, and never stopping. Can you just imagine what it feels like to a roller coaster in your brain that never ceases to turn and tumble?
From emotional flare-ups to intense opposing behaviors, ADHD manifests several features that may be dangerous to relationships – to families, couples, and friendships. It is a shadowy condition filled with opposites and exaggerations. For example, in terms of focus, you most certainly have noticed that your loved one finds it hard to concentrate when they are distracted or feeling emotional. But when they are very curious about a specific subject, they focus so profoundly that it’s so difficult to get them out of the zone that they’re in. Starting them with an activity is daunting but making them stop is more challenging.
Indeed, true love must be unreserved, but ADHD presents with circumstances that push you to your boundaries in terms of loving someone, even a family member. Whether it’s your husband, your child, or any member of the family, ADHD puts relationships to the test. The most preferred way to set your mind at ease and bring peace into the family is to start learning a different mindset to manage the emotional chaos that ADHD carries to the fold every day and all the time of the day.
Trying to understand what your family member with ADHD feels will help you improve on how to deal with them and become more loving, patient, empathic, and compassionate. Keep in mind these characteristics that your loved one with ADHD presents.
They get easily worried and anxious
As profound thinkers, they are overly wise to the things, people, and words around them. When they are in a crowded restaurant with people laughing boisterously, they feel like they’re in the front row of a rock concert. A sad news clip can set them up for a whole depressing day.
It’s hard for them to focus when they’re emotional
If they’re worried over something or if they feel annoyed, your loved one with ADHD cannot and will not think about anything else. This makes it difficult for him to communicate properly or work efficiently.
They focus too extremely
When they set their minds on something, on the other hand, they delve deep into it, and you won’t pull them off from that something very easily. They would go way too deep.
They have very active minds
The ADHD brain never ceases. The ordinary on and off switch is nowhere to be found in that brain of theirs, and there are no brakes either. This is something that one has to deal with.
They appear to be listening, but they’re not absorbing
Your loved one may be looking at you when you are talking, watching your mouth move, but the first sentence will take a long time to absorb. They hear you, but their mind is somewhere else. They are contemplating the opening and closing of your mouth and how your eyes are looking at you.
It’s difficult for them to work on one task consistently
Rather than concentrating on something or someone facing them, individuals with ADHD look blankly at the beautiful painting hanging on the wall, or that weird insect moving vigorously in the air. Like going through a maze, they move in one path, but they can’t stay on for long. They’ll soon be busy finding a new path.
When they begin a task, they find it hard to stop
When they’re doing something interesting, they can do it for hours without stopping. Even when they’re exhausted or hungry or thirsty, they won’t get food or water because they can’t keep their eyes and minds off their target.
They are not able to control their emotions
For a loved one with ADHD, their emotions are over the top and hard to contain. The intricate wires in their intelligent brains cause their feelings and thoughts hard to process. They require more time than usual for their systems to operate efficiently.
They are talented and profoundly perceptive
When they look at the outside of a box, they see what’s inside. This is one of the most beautiful and interesting aspects of ADHD and what makes them geniuses. Artists, writers, performers, and inventors flourish in this area.
Truly, your family member with ADHD can be difficult to love and care, but when you get to understand the affliction that they are battling against every single day, your heart will soften. Love and affection will take over anger and annoyance. Now you see a soul that wants only to be understood and accepted.