ADHD In The Family: Things To Keep In Mind




The hard truth is that it is difficult to love someone with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder fully. It’s hard always to be hesitant of what to say and often feeling like you’re walking on bombs that might explode anytime. You walk on tiptoes, not knowing what step or words will set off the bomb of emotion. This is something that you want to avoid.

If someone in your family is diagnosed with ADHD, you know by now that they suffer every day. Life for them is tougher than the rest of the members who don’t have it. Everything is extreme and overblown. Their intelligent brains are always actively formulating, wondering, building, and never stopping. Can you just imagine what it feels like to a roller coaster in your brain that never ceases to turn and tumble?

From emotional flare-ups to intense opposing behaviors, ADHD manifests several features that may be dangerous to relationships – to families, couples, and friendships. It is a shadowy condition filled with opposites and exaggerations. For example, in terms of focus, you most certainly have noticed that your loved one finds it hard to concentrate when they are distracted or feeling emotional. But when they are very curious about a specific subject, they focus so profoundly that it’s so difficult to get them out of the zone that they’re in. Starting them with an activity is daunting but making them stop is more challenging.

Indeed, true love must be unreserved, but ADHD presents with circumstances that push you to your boundaries in terms of loving someone, even a family member. Whether it’s your husband, your child, or any member of the family, ADHD puts relationships to the test. The most preferred way to set your mind at ease and bring peace into the family is to start learning a different mindset to manage the emotional chaos that ADHD carries to the fold every day and all the time of the day.


Trying to understand what your family member with ADHD feels will help you improve on how to deal with them and become more loving, patient, empathic, and compassionate. Keep in mind these characteristics that your loved one with ADHD presents.

They get easily worried and anxious

As profound thinkers, they are overly wise to the things, people, and words around them. When they are in a crowded restaurant with people laughing boisterously, they feel like they’re in the front row of a rock concert. A sad news clip can set them up for a whole depressing day.

It’s hard for them to focus when they’re emotional

If they’re worried over something or if they feel annoyed, your loved one with ADHD cannot and will not think about anything else. This makes it difficult for him to communicate properly or work efficiently.

They focus too extremely

When they set their minds on something, on the other hand, they delve deep into it, and you won’t pull them off from that something very easily. They would go way too deep.


They have very active minds

The ADHD brain never ceases. The ordinary on and off switch is nowhere to be found in that brain of theirs, and there are no brakes either. This is something that one has to deal with.

They appear to be listening, but they’re not absorbing

Your loved one may be looking at you when you are talking, watching your mouth move, but the first sentence will take a long time to absorb. They hear you, but their mind is somewhere else. They are contemplating the opening and closing of your mouth and how your eyes are looking at you.

It’s difficult for them to work on one task consistently

Rather than concentrating on something or someone facing them, individuals with ADHD look blankly at the beautiful painting hanging on the wall, or that weird insect moving vigorously in the air. Like going through a maze, they move in one path, but they can’t stay on for long. They’ll soon be busy finding a new path.

When they begin a task, they find it hard to stop

When they’re doing something interesting, they can do it for hours without stopping. Even when they’re exhausted or hungry or thirsty, they won’t get food or water because they can’t keep their eyes and minds off their target.

They are not able to control their emotions

For a loved one with ADHD, their emotions are over the top and hard to contain. The intricate wires in their intelligent brains cause their feelings and thoughts hard to process. They require more time than usual for their systems to operate efficiently.


They are talented and profoundly perceptive

When they look at the outside of a box, they see what’s inside. This is one of the most beautiful and interesting aspects of ADHD and what makes them geniuses. Artists, writers, performers, and inventors flourish in this area.

Truly, your family member with ADHD can be difficult to love and care, but when you get to understand the affliction that they are battling against every single day, your heart will soften. Love and affection will take over anger and annoyance. Now you see a soul that wants only to be understood and accepted.




Pandemic And ADHD – Judgments In The World I’m Living In

It is quite disappointing that some people think that having ADHD during this pandemic is a disaster. That no matter how they try and think about positivity, they often believe that people like us with the condition won’t make it in a day. It is not that alarming, but quite hurtful though. Yes, we may be struggling with some mental health issues, but we are confident that the emotional aspects are all the same with those individuals who don’t have a mental condition like us.


When other people think about ADHD, impulsiveness often comes first in their minds. Well, not that it is not correct, but some interpretations during this pandemic are not that true. Others assume that we get to feel pressure ten times more that we don’t think about our actions and responses anymore. Honestly, we do know what we are doing. It is just that we can’t control ourselves sometimes, especially when we feel too anxious. But who else doesn’t? I mean, most people struggling during this time acts impulsively. These people do not think through their decisions and rely on quick feelings too.


Poor Time Management Skills

For individuals with ADHD, time management is quite confusing and hard. I certainly agree that people with a mental condition like us often fail to prioritize tasks and sometimes fail to handle their obligations. But in this time of the pandemic, people with ADHD are not the only ones prone to those unhealthy skills. Normal individuals without mental condition also suffer from a lack of self-esteem due to their inability to handle their time properly. It is not only us that live in a world full of uncertainties. So there is no sense in looking down on us just because we suffer from a mental illness.


Low Frustration Tolerance

Another disappointing thing is when people make us feel that we are overreacting about everything. That our condition is something that they can laugh about because they think we are not in control. Well, at the point of controlling our mood and reactions, they might be right. But for the majority of all individuals in the world, I can pretty much say that they also have low frustration tolerance during this time of the pandemic. People experience a lot of financial, emotional, physical, and mental issues that break them. So that means low frustration tolerance is not limited to us people with ADHD only.


Hard To Control Behavior

Perhaps this is the worse time for us with ADHD because others look at us as unreasonable individuals. As much as we want to behave generally as others do, there are limitations to what we can offer due to our mental health condition. When people tell us that we are unreasonable for not paying attention, having trouble focusing, and disorganizing, they are correct. However, that doesn’t mean we don’t listen. That doesn’t mean we intentionally want to present behaviors they dislike. Honestly, we can function and concentrate.


Can’t Handle Relationship

Sadly, for most people, they view individuals with ADHD in a very hurtful way. Most of them assume that because we have ADHD, we are no longer capable of being in a relationship. And that our mental condition is locked in psychological learning disorder that overlaps mental incapacity. But that’s not true. Yes, we encounter some problems with our relationship due to our behaviors, but we are still capable of loving and caring.

There are quite a few individuals with ADHD who might fit into other people’s descriptions. But I encourage everyone to learn more about our condition before handing out their judgment. If regular counseling does not work for you, you can always try talk therapy through BetterHelp. It may help you sort your thoughts and emotions better than talking to loved ones.

Reminders For Managing ADHD During COVID-19

I know the situation can be difficult and challenging for individuals who are managing ADHD during this pandemic. However, if the system, plans, and organization of addressing the condition during this chaos get noted, there could be a slight chance of a better life. And if people with ADHD maintain their schedule the way they usually do, it can be a great help in allowing them to stay emotionally, physically, and mentally healthy amidst this global crisis.

The Important List Of Reminders

Ensure Enough Medication – If you are a person with ADHD and are taking medications, you need to have enough of what you are taking. Since the pandemic situation limits people from going outside, your number one priority is to avoid running out of your prescription. But you also have to consider the disadvantages of having too much. You might get caught up with too many drugs on your reach and become dependent on it all the time. With that, be sure to check regularly and only secure the amount you need so you can continue taking your meds.


Adjust On Your Routine And Stick With It – Now that you experience this weirdness of the situation, you need to stick to the new routine, you can come up with as much as possible. This level of disruption in your life will make it challenging to keep your focus on productive things. You have to try adjusting to your schedules and then try to work on it slowly and manageably. Make adjustments that are necessary for your living. But note that you can’t put things all together. So if you can also partition the things you can do in a day, it would be great.


Be Considerate In Meeting Your Body’s Needs – Normally, having an ADHD condition requires you to eat healthily. It will allow you to fuel your body with enough nutrients and energy. Yes, there will be times that you won’t have access to the healthy foods you usually eat. With that, you need to ensure proper exercise to compensate for that insufficiency. It doesn’t have to be a full-course workout session. You only need some physical activities that are enough to pump your immune system. You can do some push-ups, sit-up, jumping jacks, and so on. Then it would be best if you also got enough sleep to allow your body to self-heal and rejuvenate.


Secure A Social Connection With people – Having ADHD is challenging; that is why you need an outlet for emotional and mental strain. You need to ensure to keep contact with people even though they are not within reach. You can try and utilize technological devices to communicate with your loved ones and share thoughts with them. Ensure to have a meaningful conversation that can allow you to vent out emotions. Do not let yourself get drained with isolation and loneliness. Remind yourself always to find an alternative to connect socially.


Find Time To Meditate – In this pandemic time, there is so much negativity going on that can affect your current condition. So before it entirely takes a toll on your life, be sure you practice meditation. Be mindful of connecting your mind and body to your inner peace so that you can deal with this situation properly. Yes, things will not always go your way.  But when you stay positive despite the chaos that has been going around, you will emotionally and mentally make it.

During this global crisis, it is hard to keep up with your schedule, especially if you have a mental condition. So be sure to keep up with these reminders. If you seek help, the BetterHelp psychologists may be what you are searching for. You can trust them to assist you for as long as you need them.

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