Living With ADHD: The 4 Things You Need To Know


It’s a bit difficult to distinguish what’s normal and what’s not when it comes to a kid’s typical behavior and that of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder [ADHD]. This was discussed in How can we draw the line between a child’s wont to be playful over being excessively hyper or to the usual carelessness over impulsiveness resulting from him having ADHD?

What’s Normal And What’s Not?

Daydreaming, boundless energy to the point of becoming restless [especially during days they have to stay indoors], saying random thoughts in conversations that have nothing to do with them, not following instructions whether in home or school, forgetting things, not listening when we want them to . . . Well, these are just the usual problems we have with our kids. But how much is too much? How are we going to know when to say, “Wait, isn’t this attitude or action over the top already?” According to psychotherapistKeath Low, “For many girls with ADHD, paying attention to the task at hand is their biggest challenge.”

To end the wondering, here are four essential things you need to know about ADHD.


  1. Hyperactivity and inattentiveness – both can be signs of ADHD.

Kids with ADHD are hyperactive, right? Wrong! Being overly active doesn’t necessarily mean a child has ADHD just as not all of those who are hyperactive have ADHD. Other attention problems might be the reason why a particular child is overactive.

Other than hyperactivity, showing poor to zero attention, continually spacing out and seemingly unmotivated to do anything can be telltale marks of the condition.

You have to remember ADHD’s three main characteristics. These are IMPULSIVENESS, HYPERACTIVITY, and INATTENTION. Your child can either be inattentive but not hyper and impulsive; hyper and impulsive but shows a degree of attention or all three. Exhibiting all the three characteristics is the most common form of the disorder.

  1. Kids with ADHD can be smart and artistically gifted.

While attention deficit hyperactivity disorder [ADHD] is recognized as kids’ most commonly diagnosed mental disorder, it doesn’t necessarily affect either their intellect or talents. There are children with this disease who are intelligent and gifted artistically. However, if we want to bring out the best out of them, we have to be open to working with them under a different circumstance from how we do with typical children.

Positive qualities a child with ADHD possess include highly imaginative, spontaneous, filled with energy, flexible, multi-tasker as well as boundless energy and drive.

  1. ADHD is not a result of bad parenting.

Having a child with ADHD doesn’t mean you’ve been a lousy parent. On the other hand, though, right parenting strategies can help manage the condition both in your home and in school. “We need to be more aware of how the ADHD impacts their ability to listen, follow through on tasks, and control their impulses,” Steven L. Pastyrnak says.

As kids with the disorder tend to be impulsive and spontaneous, parents should set a structure in their homes that they should consistently follow. Rewarding them for their excellent behavior and allowing them to face the consequences of their wrong actions can also help kids with ADHD form good habits.

And when parenting ADHD kids, you need to have unlimited patience, show love even during the times when they’re most unlovable, and give them all the support and encouragement they need to get over the challenges they face every day.


  1. You don’t have to wait for a diagnosis to help your child.

If you suspect your child has ADHD [According to the psychology manual DSM-5, a child has to exhibit 6 or more signs of the disorder before he can be diagnosed with ADD/ADHD], don’t wait for the proper prognosis to take action and ask for professional help.

Some of the steps you can do to combat your child’s ADHD are implementing a structure at home that includes his schoolwork, diet and exercise regimen, considering therapy and, most importantly, lessening household distractions that could take his attention to his task at hand. Psychiatrist Vania Manipod, DO says “Folks with ADHD may require more time to complete tasks in order to thrive.”

Yes, kids can carry this disorder until they reach adulthood but it doesn’t mean they can’t be productive citizens because of it. Individuals with ADHD can be successful, too.