ADHD is a complicated chronic medical condition. Like any chronic illnesses, it comes with a lot of symptoms that affect a person’s life. In some unfortunate cases, there is a list of impairments that not all people with ADHD can manage. A lot of us know how hard it is for those people with ADHD. We might not understand how the mental condition affects a lot of people, but one thing is for sure – we care. According to Russell Barkley, PhD, “ADHD symptoms arise in a set of mental abilities called the executive functions.”
Most individuals with ADHD have difficulty regulating their attention. It becomes impossible for them to transition from one task to another. And even if these people want to, they cannot. And when the duty is less stimulating, these individuals with ADHD will not be able to focus. But is that enough reason to excuse themselves and blame their condition for the destruction they have in their lives? No, of course not. You see, even though people’s ADHD is not at all their fault, one thing is sure.
It is their responsibility to address it and find ways to work with their emotional and mental function. Yes, the statement may sound a bit straightforward, but that is the truth. Aside from embracing the signs and symptoms of ADHD, people should accept that the medical condition is not something to ignore. With that, those individuals with ADHD should try their best to make things better for themselves. They must look for helpful tools that can manage their anger and frustration. They also need to try loving themselves more and aim for their overall development.
Understanding Both Sides
Since there are lots of people who can’t seem to understand what ADHD is, some of them label the person’s behavior as unmotivated, stupid, flaky, and disorganized. These are something that can torment individuals with ADHD. It becomes an internalization that they can never shake off even right after a diagnosis. Yes, it is painful to hear such words because others are ignorant about the mental condition. But can we blame them? Honestly, it is also not their fault for not knowing the medical condition. Everyone is having doubts about what it might be. But hear it out. The judgment individuals with ADHD may have is not something they should give attention. What matters is the recovery of a better and well-functioning life. Yes, the process of attaining it is way too hard. But people with the condition will never make it if they will not try.
If ever you find yourself judging you, do not worry too much because that is normal. As what EDWARD HALLOWELL, M.D. quoted, “We need to join the growing movement to celebrate mental diversity, celebrate the full range of what the human mind can do. We need get out from under the dark hood of shame and stigma that have held us back for millennia.” The emotions you have are the same as what everybody else feels also. So what if you have ADHD? It does not mean you can never live a good life anymore. Just because you are having problems controlling your impulsive reactions, that does not give people credit to humiliate, despise, and mistreat you. Therefore, you should not also have to feel that way to yourself as well. Some people will still love you just the way you are. “To say that ADHD is sometimes misdiagnosed—even over-diagnosed—is likely true, say many experts. But to say that it doesn’t exist, as some critics claim, is “like saying the world is flat,” says Edward Hallowell, a psychiatrist who treats ADHD at The Hallowell Centers in Cambridge, MA, and New York City and who has ADHD himself.